No ONE and No SYSTEM Gets to Tell You Who You Are: They Just Get to Help You Discover!
No coach. No therapist. No spiritual guru. Not astrology. Not Human Design. Not the Enneagram. None of it gets to tell you who you are. Then, what's the point?
Life’s about learning, learning Who You Are. Because when you learn Who You Are? Well, then you get to BE Who You Are! Can’t be what ya don’t know, can you?
Well, you sort of can. Just existing naturally, I suppose. If you didn’t have all the human programming you’ve got! I’ve got…we’ve all got…
That’s a part of this human game, Dear Ones. (The programming.)
So, we’re not in our pure states! We’re not purely Souls. We’re here as Souls in human bodies.
We come into this life forgetting Who the heck We Are and Where the heck we come from and What the heck this life is all about!
Again…part of the human game.
I believe we chose it, that we signed up for it.
And I believe that one of our greatest missions is to keep on discovering more and more of the Truth of Who We Are! As a Soul. As a Soul in a human body and as the Higher Self aspect of Ourselves that is outside of this human body, this earthly realm.
When we discover Who We Are, we get to embody what we discover.
In a myriad of ways.
In an infinite number of ways.
We have so much choice, so much freedom.
But we humans don’t thrive with complete, ultimate, 100% freedom! We need some boundaries. And Soul has oh so lovingly designed (in partnership with the Universe) some parameters for this lifetime.
Parameters don’t really mean you’re limited…
As a human you sort of are! But you’re always, ultimately, a limitless Soul. You’re just playing the human game as this avatar right now!
And as we keep discovering more Truth…we keep on getting to play the game in new and more exciting, joyful ways.
That’s the game of awakening, My Friends.
When we discover Who We Are, we remember that we are Love and that we are connected to All. We’re all connected to each other! And to everything around us.
Energetically.
There is no true separation…even though living in the illusion of it is another facet of this human game. (Just like abiding by a linear perspective of time!)
We tap into our Gifts. We share the Love we are by embodying it. We fully embrace the unique prism that we each are, letting the pure light of the Soul shine uniquely in all sorts of colors through this human body that’s we’ve chosen.
This is how we’re of service! How we help the world awaken. How we spread Love. How we enjoy life. How we show the way, be examples.
This is why it is so important to remember Who We Are.
But how the heck do we do that?
There are so many ways, of course, and we’re each going to have different ones that call to us the most. One of my favorite ways is through joy! When I follow what purely brings me joy, without question, I seem to align with this stream of information where I have visions and knowings and guidance on Who I Am, what my life can be, what I can do, what I came here to do, etc.
An energetic unlock perhaps? Unlocking the information that’s always been available? We’ll explore all of that another day!
Joy is just one of my favorite ways. Plus it’s fun. Plus it spreads joy to others.
Okay, so I also love prayer and journaling. I personally find it very easy to connect with God, my Guides (even if they’re not named or I’m not connecting on a 1:1 level - as in, I’m connecting to more of a Group), my Higher Self, the Soul within this body…
Joy. Prayer. Journaling. Those are my top 3! But aside from those…
I’ve always loved systems.
Typing systems, I guess they are sometimes called. Some spiritual, some not! Many people love these systems. It’s why they’re so darn popular!
Now, some are dedicated specifically to helping people discover more about who they are, their personality.
Some have broader aims and are more multifaceted, with the ability to help you discover more about who you are being just one component. Think astrology or Human Design.
I guess I got started with these typing systems back with Myers-Briggs in high school? Shoot, I can’t even remember what I am 😅 INFP? ENFP?
That was my first intro to a typing system. (Unless you count random quizzes people would make online with titles like, “What Kind of Bread Are You?” Yes, I loved those. Can’t even say I wouldn’t do those a million times over now 😉 TOTALLY would!)
Then I got pretty into the Enneagram in college. I’m a 7! I thought I was a 6…then a 9…I see myself in those numbers, too! But ultimately, I know I’m a 7.
Next came astrology. Now, I’d been into “pop” astrology back in middle and high school…not the real-deal astrology! I was into the horoscopes in Seventeen Magazine and looking up things like which colors were associated with being a Scorpio 😂 Yes I am FULLY aware this is NOT the real-deal astrology (but it was fun back then 🤷🏼♀️).
I wanted to learn more about my astrology, truly, in college. So, I had my chart read for the first time my junior year and my mind was blown 🤯 Not everything resonated, but so much of it did. And I’ll get into more about this resonation thing in a sec.
The very latest thing I have been into is Human Design. I’m actually taking a coaching certification course right now! I don’t know if I will ever offer human design coaching in isolation or just weave it into my other work… Anyway!
The point here is (besides telling you what I’ve personally been into) there’s a lot to choose from. (I mean, I listed 4 things out of countless!)
But as I said in the title…these aren’t meant to tell you who you are.
Then, what’s their point?!
Back to YOU
I firmly believe that everything and everyone (with whom you work, that is) is meant to point you back to the Truth that’s already Within you.
To unlock what lay dormant.
When you come upon any bits of information that resonate, you have a sense of, “THAT’S IT!”
Something you knew all along but perhaps couldn’t put words to.
It feels like a…sigh of relief.
A coming home.
An excited OR gentle “yes” - both are perfect.
A permission slip! While we never truly need outside permission…isn’t it nice to have?!
Freedom. It feels like freedom.
A deep understanding, feeling like you can now make sense of how things were in the past, how you’ve shown up in life, what you want to do, etc.
Just a big ole unlock!
When you know, you know. You don’t have to know how you know or why you know…you don’t have to back it up with “logic” of any sort - you just know! You get to trust that Intuitive knowing.
You get to trust You.
Trust what’s been Within you all along.
Sometimes we are drawn to these types of systems to be these unlocks! Perhaps we do need them? I go back to the game analogy:
There are certain tasks to complete before we can move on to the next level, before we can level up.
Certain treasures to find sometimes. Clues we need to continue on the adventure.
We find them when we’re ready, we feel called when we are ready.
But if we don’t follow the call, we don’t find the treasure…and then we just wander around the same level for our whole lives! And that’s not the point of the game, is it? 😉
We use the tools that are here for us to help us unlock the Truths Within us that propel us forward to the next level.
And that just keeps on and on and on…
I’m not saying we’ll always need to turn to these typing systems to help us unlock more of what’s Within! Heck, some people will never need these systems to unlock what’s Within. Other things will be aligned tools for them.
But just because they’re not for everybody doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them…
They’re just simply not for everybody!
Only go to what resonates. Don’t go to something just because it’s trendy or because someone told you to.
If you’re curious, explore! If it doesn’t feel aligned, let it go!
If it feels aligned for a while and then turns out to not feel so good anymore? Let yourself move on, trust that you got what you needed.
We don’t have to stick with one thing all our lives ya know…
Some things we stick with longer than others, and everyone is different in how long they stick with certain things. That’s all beautiful and wonderful! A part of our human diversity.
Nothing is meant to be a manual for you to follow, a rulebook, a box…
No, it’s all meant to point you Within.
Follow the energy in what you read or hear or discover - remember there are energetic messages beneath the words. Listen.
Also, don’t put any pressure on yourself! I swear the more fun we have, the more we approach things with curiosity and joy…the better.
No one system can account for all your uniqueness. All facets of you are interconnected and influencing each other. So, when you come across something in a system that doesn’t fully resonate with you (but apparently it’s supposed to?), don’t get hung up on it. One, again - nothing can account for the totality of your uniqueness! That’s the case with all humans. Two, we humans are evolving. All systems were created in the past - they get to evolve with us! Let’s leave space for nuance and things changing. Just because something doesn’t align with you 100% doesn’t invalidate the whole system. Are you with me here?
One last time: No one and no thing (no system) can tell you Who You Are. You get to discover Who You Are! Using any tool you like.
That’s one of our ultimate aims: Discover Who We Are.
Because when we live aligned with Who We Are? We change the world.
In the ways that only we can.
But don’t forget to have abundant amounts of fun along the way 😉
Until Next Time…
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